Grooming is not exactly synonym to 'deserving' or 'being eligible' but all the three words have the same sense as far as an individual's success is concerned. There have always been two channels of success - specialization and diversification. While specialization leads a person to go the deepest in his/her field of interest with gradual narrowing down to a pinpoint. And there ends the game with or without any achievement in his/her lifetime. This way has been leading to radical developments sooner or later, hence essential and beneficial to the world humanity. But the individual him/herself may remain curious all his/her life achieving nothing for him/herself in terms of success and happiness, the ultimate goals of human life.
Only thing such a specialist gets is satisfaction of his/her curios craving which he/she can't live without. Therefore, specialization can be a fulfilling lifestyle of a few in the world, but most of the people are made differently in their searches for meanings of life and they want results in a regular stream. This piece of writing serves purpose of people of general type. There are 9 simple ways through which a person may find what he/she may be aiming ultimately.
Study variety of Subjects
Life is not unitary and it doesn't depend any one thing or subject of study. It is too diversified and a complex composition of a wide variety of phenomena many of which are still unknown to humanity. Therefore, for anybody to experience life and relate him/herself closely to it, he/she must study as many subjects of study as possible gaining depth of knowledge in varied degrees. In-spite of this way of life, it is essential for everybody to have specialization and expertise in some field.
Variety of subjects provides a wide canvas to the person to paint a colorful life of him/herself in the way of his/her liking. Many people relying on one subject of study realize later that their interest is in some other subject, when it may be too late to shift. This problem is effectively nullified through interests in a variety of subjects of study.
Soil your Hands
Knowledge remains a hollow drum to beat unless related skill is possessed by the person for which he/she must use his/her hands to work in the field of knowledge. Those who keep their hands clean keep canvases of their lives also clean without any colors of life-stream. Therefore, it is a must for everybody to develop some skills in him/herself for being successful and happy. Such skill comes handy to the person to serve contingencies of his/her life.
Putting hands on a work not only means a deep knowledge of the field but gaining more practicable knowledge and experience in the field. Through the use of hands on work, a specialization gets transformed into an expertise. With knowledge and skill of a field, the person becomes undefeatable by any person in the competitive world of today.
Widen your Skills
This point is a direct derivation of the first and second points discussed above which implies developing skills in all the fields the person has knowledge of and interest in. This would require the person to supplement efforts of his/her brain with efforts of hands to become undefeated in a wide variety of fields.
Relate to Real People you Like
Human composition is 80 percent emotional and 20 percent physical, on an average. The physical self may be satisfied through so many ways like having a good income, enjoying sex with prostitutes, eating tasty foods, wearing costly dresses, travelling widely, etc but there is only one way of finding emotional contentment, and that is having truthful relationships with real people of your liking, as friends, beloved/lover, brothers/sisters, sons/daughters, parents, uncle/aunts, etc. Without such relationships, the life remains a hollow drum to beat on without any essence and harmony.
Have Patience to Grow Up Intellectually and Experiencially
Nature has a universal application of time to all its phenomena, including human life. Everything of value takes time, and greater the value longer the time. However, its length may vary for different individuals, but none develops into something of value instantly. This respect of time, called patience, is essential for achieving success and happiness in life for everybody.
Work while you Work, Play while you Play
A nursery rhyme -
'Work while you work,
Play while you play,
That is the way to be happy and gay.'
Is not a lesson for childhood only but for the whole lifespan of everyone. But remember being humorous while on a work is different from playing with a work. Every work requires its serious pursuance which may be lightened through occasional humor. But playing with the work or while at work is detrimental to working efficiency and may rob the person of success from the work.
Have Time to Think
A person's intellectual bent gets satiated through thinking on problems, on people, on Nature, or on anything a person feels inclined at the time. And thinking is the first step toward achieving some success or happiness there from. In rushes from one activity to another, we don't find time to think and whatever thoughts come during rushing periods, they remain half-baked or immature. Accord a status of an essential work to thinking, for which you must provide time in your schedules of business. However, it may be coincidental to your body taking rest for a next bout of activities but not to when you are tired and relaxing for rejuvenation.
Don't Waste your Thoughts
As aforesaid, thoughts are primal activity to every materialization activity. If a thought remains without pursuance, it goes waste and energy put in it remains without fruition. Whatever you think, make a brief note of it and keep it close to you as reminder for its pursuance later when you have time or think it appropriate for pursuance. A thought until it remains a thought only is likely to be erased soon from your memory but when it comes on paper, it remains in your memory too. Every human thought has a value to humanity, hence make the best possible uses of your thoughts.
Relax Fully when you do
Relaxing or sitting idly is not a waste of time for a person remaining busy otherwise. These are exercises in rejuvenation and recovery of the body, mind and brain of the person, and some of these moments may be sources of great thoughts for the future of humanity. Therefore, learn the art of relaxing, and don't superimpose anything else on your moments of relaxation, but don't stop also if some thoughts prop up during these moments. Treat relaxation as a fruitful activity by itself.